How To Avoid The Common Mistakes Of A Dumped Boyfriend

David is now  a dumped boyfriend but he has to take the blame himself  for this.  It happened with David attending  a party one night with some friends. His girlfriend Sally couldn’t go because she was busy that night. David drank a little too much and spent time with some girl he didn’t even know.  As can be expected, Sally got the news through some people who were present in the party..

When Sally found out that Daddy had been unfaithful, she called him up and , she told him she never wanted to see him again. This happened amidst a lot of crying, yelling and name calling

David felt terrible and knew that what he did was wrong and wished he could go back in time and not let it happen.  On the other hand, he didn’t think that his one mistake was enough to end the relationship over.

David decided the relationship was worth saving and started taking steps to win Sally back.  But silly James really didn’t know the best way to win back a broken heart and did it all wrong!

The first thing David did wrong was when Sally called him, instead of apologizing for his mistake he just grovelled and begged Sally to take him back.  This is the wrong time for begging as Sally is very angry and in no mood for grovelling and begging.

Then David proceeded to aggressively pursue her and not give her time to deal with what happened.  David sent Sally over 100 texts during the next week and called her three or four times a day and often during the night.

After a week of relentlessly bugging Sally, David got really desperate and went to her house and sang love songs outside her bedroom window.  It wasn't long before the neighbors called the police.

David realized that none of his tactics were working so decided to try something different.  He decided to try the jealousy tactic and proceeded to ask out one of Sally's friends.

Sally's friend agreed to go out on a date with James and the news soon got back to Sally, just as David had hoped it would.  JDavid thought that when Sally heard he was dating her friend, that she would be jealous and beg him to come back to her.  But Sally wasn't jealous; it had the opposite effect and made Sally furious.  Sally knew that David was dating her friend to get back at her and she was also angry at her friend for dating her ex boyfriend.

So here did David go wrong and what could he have done things differently?

Well the first obvious mistake was when David drank too much and made out with another girl.  Silly mistake that shouldn't have been made in the first place – mistake number one!  However, even with such a mistake a relationship can be saved if the right steps are taken.

David grovelled and begged Sally immediately and then proceeded to hound her with texts and phone calls.  He didn’t give her time to breath, he didn't give her space and at that point in time she needed some space to take in what had happened and decide whether she wanted to salvage the relationship or not.  David, the dumped boyfriend, didn't give her the space she needed – that was mistake number two!

David asked Sally's friend out on a date to make her jealous.  Mistake number three!  Sally isn't stupid and she knew what he was playing at and this just made her angry.

If David had really wanted to salvage this relationship he should have apologized to Sally for what he did and let her know that he still loves her and it was just one big mistake.  Then he should have given her some space to think about what had happened and his apology so she could then decide whether she would accept his apology or not.

David should never have asked Sally's friend out on a date.  Once he had given her some space, if he didn't hear back from her after a week or so he could have called her and asked her out to dinner so they could talk.  If Sally had decided that she didn’t want him back then he would have to accept that, but if James had been more sincere and caring of her needs, then she may have considered reconciling with him.

Sally decided not to take David back after his mistake and the way he acted afterward.  If David hadn't acted foolish after his first mistake of making with another girl under the influence of drinking, Sally might have forgiven him for his mistake.  David made the big dumped boyfriend mistake by not acting in the correct manner to fix his mistake. If you make a mistake, don't make things worse. Think about what you can do to assuage your estranged girlfriend. Harassing you're ex girlfriend will only result in driving her even further away.